How to Make Room For Romance

Is keeping the romance alive in your relationship possible? Many say no when raising a family, working a full-time job, maintaining a home, running a business, or taking classes are also thrown into the mix. Here are some great ideas guaranteed to ignite the spark between you and your partner.

How to Make Room For Romance
Photo by Courtney Sargent

Remember when “date night” meant going out to dinner? Maybe candlelight, flowers, and a great bottle of wine were thrown into the mix as well.  You may be thinking your life is too hectic right now or your partner knows how much you care.  Life is demanding, yes.  Once you start to raise a family, plus working a full-time job, maintaining a home, running a business, or taking classes are thrown into the mix, who has the energy or the time, right?

Maintaining that bond is important to the sustainability of any relationship.  It helps us get through the good and the bad life tends to throw our way.  Taking expensive vacations or buying each other extravagant gifts isn't what's needed to create a solid bond.  Implementing some of the key tips noted below into your daily routine will help.  Remember, it’s the little things that truly matter in a relationship.  All it takes is a little bit of creativity to prove to that special person in your life they matter and are always in your thoughts.  

Have Your Own Sign ~ There’s nothing that creates a connection more than your own private language. Think up a secret gesture that means “You are adorable,” “You are hot”, “I’m craving you” or simply, “I love you.”  It won’t matter where you are or whose company, you’re in.  Your partner will understand your secret message totally.

P.D.A. ~ Who doesn’t love being the recipient of open affection?  Wherever you are… hold hands, touch lips lightly, hug tenderly.  Recreate the memory of how it felt in the beginning when you were first dating every day.  Everyone wants to be the recipient of affection.

Flirt in the A.M. ~ You may not be a morning person, but nothing starts the day off right, then a little flirtation.  Do it before you get out of bed like nibble on your mate’s ear, caress their butt, kiss their lips tenderly despite their morning breath and then saying, “Morning good looking or beautiful.”

Let the Cell Work for You ~ Sending a “You’re Hot”, “Luv You Muchly”, “You Rock My World” text for no reason at all will get you major points.  Or, if you call and it goes to voice mail, use your sexy/bedroom voice and leave your partner a thrilling message that will leave them anxious and wanting more.

Tell Them Why ~ When you’re sharing in an intimate moment with your partner, whisper the reasons why you love them.  It may seem corny, but they’ll love it just the same especially if each reason given is ended with a long and slow seductive kiss.

Make a Fuss ~ Praising someone usually falls short.  We tend to take the little things for granted.  Go the extra mile and break out a bottle of champagne or fix a special dinner when your partner accomplishes landing a client, getting a promotion, loses weight, finishes a special project, etc.  The acknowledgment will warm their hearts.

Say it With a Note ~ This is one thing we always forget …. leaving a note of affection for the one we love whether, it’s on a post-it, napkin, scrap paper or in the form of a cute card.  We all love finding that little surprise tucked in a drawer, in a coat/shirt/coat pocket, in our gym bag or lunch box, on our pillow or posted where we’ll find/see it easily.

Cuddle Time ~ Set your alarm clock earlier for a quickie or just to snuggle before your hectic day begins.  It goes a long way to keep that connection alive.

Gifting for No Reason ~ The simplest gestures go the furthest and you don’t have to spend a lot of money.  It’s the little things that matter like giving them a gas card, buying their favorite candy bar and attaching a note, picking up the tab, ordering a book from their favorite author, uploading songs to their iPod they might like, a gift card to their favorite coffee/donut shop… anything you do will put a smile on their face.